How to Build a Good Relationship WITH Your SPOUSE
*How to Build a Good Relationship WITH Your SPOUSES*
*Show gratitude to your husband when he does something well* .
Thank him even for small tasks. Expressing appreciation is essential to showing your husband that you are not taking him for granted. You want to share the positive as well as the negative.
For example, you might say, “Thank you so much for picking up the groceries!” or “I’m so proud of you for getting that raise."
If you asked your husband to do something, don’t forget to thank him afterwards. This will help encourage him to continue contributing.
*Respect your husband’s privacy to demonstrate your trust.*
Trust is essential in a relationship. Your husband needs to know that you trust him, even when you are not around. This will help him trust you and create healthy boundaries in the relationship.
Allow your husband to go out with friends and socialize without you. Express interest in his friends, but don't interrogate him about who he is hanging out with.
Do not track your husband’s phone calls, social media accounts, or emails. Allow him to maintain his private life, and trust that he will tell you when something important comes up.
At the same time, make sure that your husband respects your privacy. Don't be afraid to set boundaries or to ask for time alone.
Watch out for being codependent. It's important that you have your own friends and hobbies outside of your relationship, as well. If you find yourself constantly tracking your husband, consider getting professional help from a therapist.
*Ask your husband for help when you need it. Request his*
assistance politely and with respect. Explain why you want him to do something. Don't forget to thank him afterwards!
For example, instead of saying “you need to fix the door this weekend,” you might say, “do you think you could take care of the door this weekend?” If he says no, work out a solution that works for both of you. For example, offer to pick up the necessary tools for him or ask if he would rather hire a handyman.
Emphasize why you need his help as well. For example, you might say, “I have a meeting after work today, so I won’t be able to cook dinner. Can you handle it tonight?”
If your husband asks you for help or to do something for him, don’t forget to come through on it. Both of you should assist the other when needed.
*Remember that communication*
is a 2-way street. When you communicate with your husband, he should be expressing the same respect, trust, and openness back to you. If he does not, it may be time to talk to him about the issue.
Your husband should show gratitude to you for the things that you do. He should ask respectfully when he needs something and respect your privacy. If he doesn't, you should ask him specifically to respect you in these ways.
A marriage counselor can help in this regard. The counselor can teach you healthy communication practices in a safe space.
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*Show gratitude to your husband when he does something well* .
Thank him even for small tasks. Expressing appreciation is essential to showing your husband that you are not taking him for granted. You want to share the positive as well as the negative.
For example, you might say, “Thank you so much for picking up the groceries!” or “I’m so proud of you for getting that raise."
If you asked your husband to do something, don’t forget to thank him afterwards. This will help encourage him to continue contributing.
*Respect your husband’s privacy to demonstrate your trust.*
Trust is essential in a relationship. Your husband needs to know that you trust him, even when you are not around. This will help him trust you and create healthy boundaries in the relationship.
Allow your husband to go out with friends and socialize without you. Express interest in his friends, but don't interrogate him about who he is hanging out with.
Do not track your husband’s phone calls, social media accounts, or emails. Allow him to maintain his private life, and trust that he will tell you when something important comes up.
At the same time, make sure that your husband respects your privacy. Don't be afraid to set boundaries or to ask for time alone.
Watch out for being codependent. It's important that you have your own friends and hobbies outside of your relationship, as well. If you find yourself constantly tracking your husband, consider getting professional help from a therapist.
*Ask your husband for help when you need it. Request his*
assistance politely and with respect. Explain why you want him to do something. Don't forget to thank him afterwards!
For example, instead of saying “you need to fix the door this weekend,” you might say, “do you think you could take care of the door this weekend?” If he says no, work out a solution that works for both of you. For example, offer to pick up the necessary tools for him or ask if he would rather hire a handyman.
Emphasize why you need his help as well. For example, you might say, “I have a meeting after work today, so I won’t be able to cook dinner. Can you handle it tonight?”
If your husband asks you for help or to do something for him, don’t forget to come through on it. Both of you should assist the other when needed.
*Remember that communication*
is a 2-way street. When you communicate with your husband, he should be expressing the same respect, trust, and openness back to you. If he does not, it may be time to talk to him about the issue.
Your husband should show gratitude to you for the things that you do. He should ask respectfully when he needs something and respect your privacy. If he doesn't, you should ask him specifically to respect you in these ways.
A marriage counselor can help in this regard. The counselor can teach you healthy communication practices in a safe space.
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